Power of Polyamory with Jo and Jonathan Encarnacion | Relationships
We hear from the beautiful and lovely voices of Jo and Jonathan Encarnacion. They did not have very good “relationship role models” while growing up. Conflict was seen as a secret thing that happened behind closed doors and all their conflict was swept under the rug. As they kept pushing all the hurt and dissatisfaction down and down, the small problems weren’t small anymore. We think a lot of you guys would be able to relate to Jo and Jonathan’s relationship struggles because it’s nothing like a Disney story.
Jo and Jonathan get really raw about their relationship ups and downs and even admit it wasn’t until about two years ago did their communication really start to “click.” Jo talks about overcoming her shame and why the couple made the decision to share their story in podcast form. We dive deep into how Jonathan had to overcome his jealousy, where the relationship turned sour, the practicing of self-love, and Jo’s infidelity.
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[:34] About today’s episode!
[1:20] Reading our review of the week.
[3:10] Our quote of the week.
[5:30] You have to make a choice to leave the day behind and spend conscious time with your partner.
[7:55] If you’re frustrated with your partner, get away for half a day. Perspective is everything.
[9:55] If you or your partner are in a place of suffering, it’s time to try something new.
[12:45] A bit about today’s guests!
[15:25] Jo and Jonathan started a podcast because they didn’t want to create a false narrative about what their REAL relationship was like.
[18:40] Jo and Jonathan have thrown the word ‘divorce’ around so many times. It’s been hard. There was a lot of blame thrown around on both sides.
[23:00] It’s so easy to cover up all the messes or make an embarrassing scene at a restaurant and just never go back to the restaurant instead of addressing what caused that scene in the first place. It all adds up and the next thing you know, you’re drowning in problems.
[25:30] Jo and Jonathan have been together for 18 years, but it was only until two years ago did Jo and Jonathan learn to have healthy conversations with one another.
[31:45] There was so much shame around having trouble in your relationship. Jo and Jonathan didn’t have good role models to turn to and to talk about this stuff with.
[35:50] So many of our ‘relationship goals’ in our society have been emulated by romcoms and Disney movies.
[37:30] Jo shares her story of falling out of love with Jonathan.
[43:25] Jo and Jonathan both said they’re not going to keep “guessing” what’s on each other’s mind. Despite being together for so long, they still couldn’t read minds. You have to come out and just say it if you want your needs met.
[45:00] Let’s talk about polyamory.
[1:00:55] Getting to where Jonathan was comfortable with polyamory was a lot of hard work and it took a lot of therapy.
[1:05:55] As a couple, you can have whatever kind of relationship you want. You get to make up your own rules.
[1:09:00] Jo talks about shame and how she was able to work through that.
[1:12:00] What’s the best advice the couple has ever received?
[1:12:30] What has been the proudest moment to-date for the couple?
[1:13:25] What has been the hardest moment to-date for the couple?
[1:14:45] What are some of the couple’s self-care rituals?
[1:15:50] What ignites both Jo and Jonathan?
[1:16:35] What’s next for the couple?