Relationships, Masculinity, and Getting Honest With Yourself with John Kim, The Angry Therapist
We’re in mental health and wellness month! We’re so excited to jump into today’s episode with you because we have on a very special guest today — the Angry Therapist! Seriously, that’s what he’s known as! John Kim’s no BS way of helping men and women find more happiness in their relationships and more purpose in their lives is so powerful. In his work, he challenges the conventions of what you think your therapist can do. He humanizes himself and shows up authentically and transparently for the world to see, which has led him to become a pioneer in the field of self-help.
In his newest book, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, John talks about his transition from misery to meaning. He shares his entire internal process from reflection to pain to courage and a rebirth. His book acts as a guide for men and speaks about the dos and don’ts for stepping into manhood, which he defines by transparency and strength of character — not a six-pack or a corner office.
We talk about so many different topics with John today and we get into some really deep topics that we’re sure you’ll really love! We discuss his career and how the moniker of ‘the Angry Therapist’ came to be, his own journey of self-discovery and personal exploration with manhood, the concept of toxic masculinity and how it is shifting in today’s society, current dating culture and the changing landscape, and so much more. We can’t wait for you all to tune in!
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Topics Discussed:
[:35] About today’s episode and special guest.
[1:30] Sharing our review of the week!
[3:16] Sophie shares a fantastic quote from our guest, John Kim.
[5:35] More about today’s guest.
[6:00] About our online recovery resources.
[8:22] The conversation portion of the podcast.
[9:06] Welcoming John Kim on to the podcast!
[9:36] About John’s moniker, the Angry Therapist, and how it came to be.
[10:32] John speaks about the inner-judgment and resistance he faced when it came to adding “f*ck” to his book title.
[12:41] John speaks about his work and his personal exploration with masculinity.
[14:27] What John’s book, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck, is about.
[16:20] Reflecting on the confusing path of what it means to be a man in today’s day and age.
[17:26] What is toxic masculinity? And where does it come from?
[22:18] What’s the solution to toxic masculinity if there is one?
[23:38] John speaks about how he’s seeing this toxic masculinity dynamic shifting for the better.
[26:22] Telling a quick funny story about Sophie’s lack of celebrity knowledge.
[28:47] What is ‘famous’ anymore?
[30:36] How does John feel about the documentation of his journey and the various platforms he has used to share it?
[32:05] John shares how his idea of what a therapist has evolved over time.
[35:55] John speaks about the emergence of coaching and why he started ‘journey coaching.’
[37:59] Talking about how we first met, the idea of getting married too soon, and others’ struggles with being single.
[39:21] About John’s next book: Single on Purpose.
[39:41] Discussing dating culture and the changing landscape of what it means to be a man.
[43:26] Self-partnering and learning how to date ‘better.’
[45:56] How we define chemistry.
[48:14] What should you look for in a relationship and how to approach them with a more level-head.
[51:13] Discussing the role men play in a relationship and how that is changing.
[55:42] The best advice John has ever received.
[56:25] What has been John’s proudest moment to-date?
[57:25] What has been one of John’s hardest moments to-date?
[58:26] How radical transparency saved our relationship.
[1:03:54] John speaks about the self-care that he puts in place so that he can show up as his best self every day.
[1:05:35] What ignites John?
[1:06:02] Thanking John for joining us today.
[1:06:10] Be sure to screenshot this podcast, tag us and John, and let us know what you loved about this episode!
Mentioned in this Episode:
I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman's Guide to a Meaningful Life, by John Kim
“Emma Watson says she’s ‘self-partnered,’ not single”
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