Becoming Someone Who Isn’t Addicted

I frequently get asked, “How do I beat my addiction?”, “What’s the best tool or technique?”, or ”Will this be the medication to fix me?”

But these are the wrong questions to be asking. What you really need to be asking yourself (and exploring) is the “why” behind your addiction. The “fix” is not about finding a given tool; it’s about honest exploration and understanding the “why” behind your addiction. We shouldn’t waste our time thinking of all the ways we can “fix” our addiction — instead, we should learn how to become the kind of person who isn’t addicted.

This episode I discuss how to achieve real recovery, how to align your beliefs and goals to achieve success, understanding the ‘why’ behind your addiction, how to know when you’re no longer addicted, and learning how to honestly explore your addiction and accept yourself.

Topics Discussed:

[1:11] About what I’ll be discussing today: how to achieve real recovery.

[3:54] A soul-crushing moment in my recovery.

[6:44] When I first got a real sense that I truly beat my addiction.

[7:22] You have to align your beliefs and your goals to achieve success and happiness.

[9:22] Why the ‘fix’ is not about finding a given tool; it involves honest exploration and understanding the ‘why’ behind your addiction.

[12:18] How to know when you’re no longer addicted.

[14:10] An example from my online webinar about a client who went from helplessly addicted to being a successful grad student.

[16:15] Remember: acceptance and understanding first, tools second.

[16:52] Thank you for tuning it! If you enjoyed this episode please take a screenshot of this episode and tag me on Instagram or Twitter.

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